What’s different this time? | Nerd Fitness

At this time is probably the most hope and optimism-filled day of the yr.

That’s nice!

No matter objectives or resolutions you’ve set for your self, I’m excited for you!

We’re all attempting to higher ourselves, and though issues haven’t labored out the way in which we needed them to previously, we hope this time will likely be totally different.

Musician Nick Cave describes hope as “optimism with a damaged coronary heart,” and I feel that’s fantastically correct. We’re all attempting to be totally different when change is so rattling arduous.

Should you’re attempting to construct a brand new exercise behavior or change the quantity on the dimensions this yr, I salute you. Setting a purpose to vary may be very commendable.

However to present ourselves the perfect probability of conducting our purpose, we should mix the purpose with some self-reflection and self-awareness.

Listed here are TWO inquiries to ask your self as we start 2025…

Query 1: What’s totally different this time?

I’m pleased with you for beginning once more.

However what’s totally different about this try?

Should you do what you’ve at all times carried out, you’ll get what you’ve at all times acquired.

One of the best predictor of future conduct is previous conduct.

Should you decide the identical purpose or technique that you simply tried (unsuccessfully) previously, the top consequence would be the identical: one other misplaced yr of “why can’t I get my act collectively?”

So, be deliberate about what’s totally different this time!

Don’t simply “go on XYZ weight loss plan” or “hand over all sugar eternally” or “practice for a marathon” once more, particularly in case you’ve tried these issues earlier than and couldn’t keep on with them.

One thing must be totally different this time:

• Make fewer modifications.
• Choose ONE purpose and deal with it.
• Choose a distinct exercise routine.
• Choose a distinct weight loss plan or vitamin change.
• Choose a distinct time of day to work out.
• Recruit a pal to hitch you so that you’re not doing it alone.
• Make your new desired conduct ​beneficial or necessary​.

Show to your self you’ve discovered one thing out of your previous makes an attempt. Don’t let previous failures be in useless – they confirmed you what doesn’t work for you.

Attempt one thing totally different this time!

Query 2: What are you afraid of?

You’re stuffed with momentum proper now, and that’s nice.

However three weeks from now, life will occur, and one thing will go mistaken.

What has been your tendency when this occurs previously?

We ask each ​NF Coaching Client​ earlier than they begin, “What are you most nervous about?”

That reply is one thing they’re conscious of on account of their previous makes an attempt:

Are you going to get busy and determine “to take a break till issues decelerate?” Nice! Now you recognize when that little voice in your head says this, you possibly can put together for it, plan to do one thing otherwise, and determine that you simply don’t have to hearken to that voice in your head.

Are you going to have one unhealthy day and go completely off the rails? Nice! Now you recognize that when you could have one unhealthy day, you possibly can forgive your self, not look again in anger or guilt, and get proper again on observe.

Are you going to surrender though you actually actually actually wish to push by? Nice! This occurs to all of us when motivation wanes after a number of weeks. Take into account ​adding a Ulysses Pact​ to protect towards your weaknesses or having a bet with a pal to maintain you accountable.

NF Coach Matt Myers was lately on the ​Mental Golf Podcast with Josh Nichols​ – and on the 24:30 mark within the episode, Matt identified one thing to Josh that stunned him:

“You instructed me earlier than you began, ‘I do know I’m going to return out of the gates HARD, however about 3 weeks in, I’m going to burn out and disappear.’

And I stated, ‘Thanks for letting me know,’ and I had all these alarms and alerts able to test in with you repeatedly across the 21 day mark!”

Josh had the self-awareness to know the place he would screw up sooner or later, he and Coach Matt deliberate for it, and acquired over the hump collectively.

Since then, they’ve labored collectively for 2 months (and counting), and Josh has solely missed a single day of checking in and lacking someday didn’t trigger Josh’s regular “all-or-nothing” conduct to kick in!

This time CAN be totally different

All of us got down to change, and even once we’re self-aware…

We frequently chew off greater than we will chew:

Our objectives and hopes usually exceed the truth that we’re fallible, busy, sophisticated people dwelling unpredictable lives.

That’s okay!

If we’re conscious of this stuff, if we will strive otherwise…then even when this subsequent try doesn’t work both, we will take away that technique from the listing of potential profitable paths, and take a look at once more.

That’s all life is anyway: strive, fail, alter, restart.

-Steve

PS: Should you don’t wish to go on this journey alone, I’d be honored in case you take a look at ​the NF Coaching Program​.

Our coaches are superior and we’d love that can assist you attain your objectives. We’ve had a TON of sign-ups these previous few days, which has me actually excited to assist so many new folks.