I’ve been making an attempt to do a number of issues in a different way in 2025.
Particularly, transferring in direction of moments or issues that make me uncomfortable.
(I don’t imply “occasions when I’m in bodily hazard,” after all.)
However quite, I’m going to run towards the issues that my mind tells me, “That is uncomfortable, I don’t like this, keep away from it in any respect prices.”
The e-mail I’m afraid to open. The dialog I’m afraid to have. The query I’m afraid to ask. The power to be alone with my ideas (yikes).
Once I attain for my cellphone or Netflix or Ps controller to keep away from being bored or uncomfortable or unhappy or responsible…
I’m making an attempt to construct some self-discipline to pause first.
To not keep away from, distract, or entertain myself away from what’s actually taking place.
To not zone out or run away, Monty-Python type.
If I’ve the braveness to sit down there and actually ask the query, “Why is that this making me really feel uncomfortable?” there’s worthwhile classes to be realized.
Lean into The Discomfort
Writer Pema Chodron lays out the next in her guide When Things Fall Apart:
“We regard discomfort in any type as dangerous information.
…emotions like disappointment, embarrassment, irritation, resentment, anger, jealousy, and concern.
As an alternative of being dangerous information, these are literally very clear moments that train us the place it’s that we’re holding again.”
These items could be unbelievable academics if we give ourselves the house to be taught.
However that’s fairly the ask in 2025:
Due to the web and our telephones and same-day supply, we are able to spend each minute of on daily basis hiding from almost each single uncomfortable feeling in our lives. We by no means should be bored, we by no means should really feel “dangerous,” we by no means have to deal with the elephant within the room.
We are able to simply swipe, click on, faucet, or disassociate to keep away from any and all “dangerous” emotions.
We are able to cover from them with countless leisure and luxury (even when it retains us from getting what we actually need).
In fact, these dangerous emotions don’t go away—they’re nonetheless there, and the issues we’re avoiding will finally must be handled.
When I attempt to cover from discomfort, I do know I’m not truly avoiding it. I’m not preserving it boxed up.
I’m trapped in Pandora’s Box with the monsters.
Blaise Pascal, a Seventeenth-century thinker, stated it finest:
“All of humanity’s issues stem from man’s incapacity to sit down quietly in a room alone.”
These Emotions are Attempting to Train Us!
Many emotions of discomfort are screaming to show us one thing if we are able to reframe how we really feel about them.
As Chodron factors out:
“They’re like messengers that present us, with terrifying readability, precisely the place we’re caught.
This very second is the right instructor, and, fortunate for us, it’s with us wherever we’re.”
Life has a method of creating that quiet, uncomfortable feeling get louder and louder till we are able to’t assist however handle it…
However we are able to save ourselves fairly a little bit of time if we acknowledge the concern, lean in sooner, and acknowledge life is making an attempt to show us one thing.
That’s my problem for you this week.
What if…
We requested, “Am I actually hungry, or am I simply soothing myself with meals?”
We acknowledged we have been scared or anxious or nervous after which requested (with compassionate curiosity) what was behind the sensation?
Life is making an attempt to show us classes on daily basis.
We simply should be brave sufficient to be uncomfortable to see it.
-Steve
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